In celebration of Kai finishing his 4th Trimester I wanted to share my Top Ten Things I’ve learned since becoming a babymama.

1. Change is constantly coming.
Once you figure something out, enjoy it because the next hurdle is on it’s way.

2. Be open. I was anti co sleeping before Kai was born. Personally, I didn’t think it was safe. I know a lot of people who do it and do it well but I wasn’t comfortable with it. I also wasn’t into a family bed where it’s a free for all where 6 year olds are still wedged in between my husband and me. So when Sean casually mentioned he could sleep downstairs because “What’s the point of both of us being tired?” I thought what a weird idea but lit up when he mentioned he could help more by taking the baby in the morning for a few hours so I could sleep. That got my attention and my vote. That night I pulled Kai out of his bassinet next to my bed and moved him into his snuggle nest right in the middle of my bed. I loved having him so close especially for the night feedings. I got to the point where I could change his diaper, feed him and put him down in 20min. I could also push that darn sleep sheep button very easily every 45min. This went well for a few weeks and then we went to New York.

3. “Soft” is the one word I’d use to describe my new babymama body. My body looks completely different to me even though I’m close to my pre baby weight. I’m not complaining-I’m just sayin… I’m sure continuing to teach my spin class will help but “Soft” is what it is.

4. Breastfeeding is a sport! Ahhh, so interesting to get what you want and much much more. I wanted to breastfeed exclusively for 6 months to 1 year and didn’t want Kai to have nipple confusion. We are breastfeeding 8-12 times a day and there is NO nipple confusion what so ever. After my husband saw that babies at the hospital in the nursery were given pacifiers at night I put a note on his bed to NOT give him a pacifier. I waited the suggested time of 4-6weeks before introducing the bottle. Now, Kai wants nothing to do with the bottle or the pacifier. And my milk supply is so well established that I pump an extra 10-12 ounces a day to take the edge off. I’m officially a milkmaid and human pacifier. Good news is that I have a freezer full of breast milk and a well fed baby!

5. The Happiest Baby on the Block DVD changed my life. Our friend Jen Leo gave me this book right after Kai was born. I read it and practiced the 5’s. But I didn’t get aggressive with the swaddling and sshhhhhing until my Lily’s mom gave me the DVD. I’m visual like that. Once I saw Harvey Karp wrap that baby as tight as a mummy and sssshhh as loud as vacumm cleaner, I stepped it up a notch.

6. Add at least 30 min to everything you do to get there on time. You’ll either be a few minutes early or right on time.

7. Sex only gets better and better. Get naked and keep trying.

8. Baby gear makes your life easier. Of course it’s possible to forgo all the baby carriers, BOB strollers and swings but why? So handy, especially when you travel. I’m constantly reminding myself that when we’re traveling I’ve got to be flexible with Kai. Like Colleen from TravelMamas says let them nap in the Ergo when on the go. I couldn’t agree more.

9. Be patient and realistic. Wow, I wish I could tape these two words to my forehead. It’s hard to remember when you’re a new mommy to be patient and realistic. But I’ll keep trying.

I used to workout everyday and “do” a lot in one day. Now, I’m happy working out when I can (few times a week) and “doing” 1 or 2 things a day. Sometimes, it takes all morning just to get going let alone do a load of laundry. So, I try and remind myself that 1 big adventure a day even if it’s going grocery shopping is a victory.

10. I really do have The Glory Job! It was 5am and Kai was about 7weeks old when Sean popped upstairs to check on us. He flopped onto the bed and exclaimed how tired he was… Let’s just say I’m not the sweetest person at 5am but am really far from sweet after being up all night breastfeeding. I growled “How can you be tired after getting a chunk of sleep downstairs?” Then he proceeded to tell me I have “The Glory Job.” As tired as I was, it sure didn’t feel glorious. I didn’t say a word.

Today, I totally agree that I have “The Glory Job” taking care of baby Kai. He is the sweetest little thing in the whole wide world! But it’s not 5am and we’re not breastfeeding 12/day anymore.