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How Do I Stop Breastfeeding My 21 Month Old?

January 31st, 2012 Brandy Kai, Mommy Decisions 4 Comments

When I was pregnant I wondered how breastfeeding Kai would work? After he was born, I wondered how teaching spin classes and doing bikram yoga would affect my milk supply? Turns out it worked out beautifully, now the challenge is to stop.

Nursing 5 month old baby Kai at a EO event in Portland, OR

Initially, the goal was breastfeeding for 6 months which moved to 1 year which moved to 15 months. Now Kai is a healthy 21 month old boy and still loves his Mom-Mo (breastfeeding) time. He’s able to ask for it with sign language and verbally. He even asks for “other side” when he’s done with one boob. I used to think that if they can ask for it, they’re too old to nurse. Funny how things changed for me after having my own baby.

20 month old Kai having his “afternoon tea” in New Zealand

Of course, I know he gets nearly all of his nutrition from food and water. I also know that he’ll be just fine without Mom-mo milk. But, it’s so nice to give him that extra little comfort and nutrition because I can. We’ve weaned down to twice a day for a few months and are officially only nursing once a day as of 3 days ago. After his nap, he asks for his mom-mo milk constantly.  Taking out that post nap session has been a real bugger. Because he doesn’t take a bottle or cup of ANYTHING except water it’s tough to offer a similar alternative. However, I know that time and consistency will pay off eventually.  Distractions work okay but it’s mostly more work for me to take it away in the afternoon. Ideally, I wanted to let him stop on his own but am not sure if that would happen?

About a month ago, I saw some adorable calves in the field near our apartment lounging with their mamas. Driving by one day, I saw one particular calf nursing away and thought “oh my dog” that is one big baby! I giggled and said, that could be you Kai…

Anyway, as we embrace the new year with new possibilities, I think weaning is the next step. Although, we did wean down to once a day last November for a week but I ended up bringing it back. Supply and demand baby. The human body is amazing!

A few tips I’ve picked up for weaning:

1. Have a yummy snack ready to offer with their drink of choice

2. Dora the explorer is my friend

3. Distract, cuddle and play as much as possible!

4. Keep those boobies covered, once he sees them he wants them (No changing into my swimsuit in front of him)

 

Ipads For Toddlers, Yes Please

December 16th, 2011 Brandy Kai, Mommy Decisions 5 Comments

Kai chillin on his new potty with his ipad

I was a little torn about introducing the ipad to baby Kai but quickly got over it when he turned one. I had read that all screen time (tv, ipad, etc) should be restricted until babies are two and then really limited after that. Being married to a techy made me rethink what was best for Kai. As the world evolves to digital “everything” I want Kai to be familiar with ipads and computers. Kai was barely interested in the ipad apps I downloaded when he was one and only wanted to hit the big button to return to the home screen. These days, it’s a different story. Kai is 19 1/2 months and a huge ipad fan. Sometimes, he dances around to Old Mcdonald or the Itsy Bitsy Spider and other times he practices counting with the Montessori Learning apps. Recently, he was cruising on the potty with the ipad.

I can’t blame him, who doesn’t like to read while going potty?

Yes, please!

 

 

Flight Attendant Master ReBid News

July 7th, 2011 Brandy Mommy Decisions 1 Comment

The good news is that I made the cut. I get to stay based in Portland and won’t be displaced to LA or Seattle for now. The bad news is that I’m four from the bottom where I used to be number twenty seven. As we anxiously looked up the master rebid results for flight attendants my husband said, you’ve gone backwards. After 4 1/2 years with my current airline, I’m on call and will probably be for years to come. I used to be able to get weekends off but imagine it’ll be back to Tue, Wed, Thurs off. At least I won’t have to commute to Seattle or LA. Being a baby mama AND a flight attendant is very interesting. Never a dull moment!

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We Hired An Au Pair

It’s official, we hired an Au Pair! I never thought I’d want a nanny or an au pair for that matter. However, sometimes what you want changes when you’re in the situation.

13 month old baby Kai having a little snick snack

After a month of interviewing nannies, au pairs and lots of talking we finally found someone. We have an arrival date of July 9th and are tickled pink to meet Camela from Chile! She will be living with us and helping us with baby Kai for a year. She speaks excellent english, seems to have a great attitude and loves to travel.

7 month old baby Kai kickin it in the bassinet on the flight to New Zealand last December

Hopefully, this will make it easier for me to have “my little something” on the side. Last week when we were having a family meeting my husband called me out on what I call being a full time, on call flight attendant-”A little something” on the side. I really called it that. Now, I understand that traveling 3-4 days at a time, every week is far from being a stay at home mom. However, being a stay at home mom with a little something on the side is what I always pictured for myself. I think hiring an au pair will allow me to keep my job, give Sean a hand when I’m out of town and the space to think about what I want and how to make it happen.

All strapped in, ready for a walk to the park

Anyway, having Camela come couldn’t happen soon enough. June was a tough month for our family with crazy traveling, working, getting sick and trying to keep it altogether. The day she arrives I will be coming home at 6am from a 4 day trip which ends with me working the alnighter flight from Anchorage. Sean is also in a wedding that day which is out of town. Camela doesn’t arrive until that evening so it could be a little tricky. The best part is that we share a car, which was fine until I went back to work. Now, it’s a little nuts…

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Is A Flight Attendant’s Schedule Flexible Or Is That My Imagination

June 10th, 2011 Brandy Mommy Decisions 4 Comments

Taking a 5 minute break before we board our next flight

I have been back at work for 10 weeks now as an on call flight attendant. There have been good moments and a lot of uncertain moments. The scheduling dilemma that I face on a week to week basis is enough to give someone a heart attack. Not only am I on call (where I have to call back within 15 min of receiving a call) 18 days a month but I drag myself to bikram yoga while I’m on call. I stick my phone under my towel and sneak peaks at it every few minutes to make sure I didn’t miss a call. In my mind, I’m ready to leave class in an instant and rush home to fly away for 4-5 days. Of course, I can’t forget my breast pump back pack because I’m still nursing Kai 4-6 times a day. Forget bringing any food or snacks, I don’t have the room or the stamina to keep anything else cold after caring for my pumped breastmilk for 4 days. And the really exciting part is that my husband works and travels a ton for fun too.

A few years ago you might be on call but not get used which was glorious. You’re still paid for the day but don’t go anywhere. That isn’t the case these days because airlines are running a tight ship with limited employees. Today, if you’re on call, you’ll be called for a trip. And you used to be able to pay people up to $100 per day for an extra day off. These days most people are either working already or so exhausted from working so much that a $100 tip isn’t feasible. So it takes the “flexibility” right out of the equation.

Add a sick baby or heaven for bid I get sick, which happened to me this month. That’s a whole different animal.

Mostly the unknown factor of being on call is the worst part for me. Not knowing where or when you’ll be going makes it hard to sleep at night and breathe during the day. I’m constantly constructing back up plans every week. Which gets complicated when our options for childcare are limited to babysitters from Kai’s school. Kai does go to school 2 days a week which hardly helps with my ongoing scheduling crisis. My mom has saved the day a few times by taking care of Kai. However that is a lot to ask of her while she works, and lives in Eugene with Doc the surfer, her dedicated workout schedule, 3 cats, 2 dogs, 42 houseplants and a beautiful garden.

As I reflect on my current situation and my past idea of how flexible being a flight attendant is I wonder, is it worth it?

Funny part is that while I was writing this post, somebody picked up two very difficult days for me next week. This flight attendant schedule is a bit like a bad relationship-always talking yourself into it and just when you want to end it, something wonderful happens. I was almost positive that I wouldn’t get those two days off so had multiple plans with multiple people in place. Not to mention the mandatory meeting I had four other people reschedule, just in case. As I write a $200 check and pop it in the mail to the flight attendant who picked up my days, I have new hope for next week!

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Drinking While Breastfeeding. Is It Okay?

June 24th, 2010 Brandy Mommy Decisions 4 Comments

Originally this post was titled “Drinking while Pregnant,” which seems similiar to “Drinking while Breastfeeding.” I missed the boat about the drinking pregnant lady so am seizing the opportunity to write about the drinking milk maid. However, I wanna touch on both topics because most people do it and few people talk about it.

In my experience, people tend to get excited when talking about drinking caffeine and alcohol. However, emotions start to fly when women talk about drinking alcohol when pregnant and breastfeeding.

Is it okay to drink while pregnant and breastfeeding?

It depends on who you ask and where you live when deciding if
drinking is right for you. My first OB GYN was completely against
drinking while pregnant-not a drop she said. Which was fine by me but the real kicker was when she said I couldn’t workout with a heart rate over 140. A heart rate of 140 bpm is the textbook recommendation for pregnant women who want to workout. Of course, I wanted to be safe but also knew that maintaining your current workout routine within reason was also widely accepted among the medical community. That was my first and last appointment with that doctor.

My progressive thinking OB GYN.

My second appointment was with a doctor who suggested I continue working out everyday and pay attention to my perceived exertion not my heart rate. I still bought a heart rate monitor just to KIR (keep it real) as I tend to get a little carried away when working out. In the same visit she answered my drinking question by telling me one drink here and there while pregnant is fine. In fact, pregnant women in France are encouraged to drink one glass of wine everyday. However, if you’re the type of person where one drink quickly turns into three then drinking while pregnant isn’t a good idea. She said the US is very conservative with drinking alcohol compared to the rest of the world, I completely agree. I appreciated her honesty about drinking while pregnant because I expected her to say the standard response-no alcohol while pregnant. I figured she’d say that for liability reasons, which I understand. She sealed the deal with me when she encouraged me to workout everyday while pregnant.

If you decide to drink alcohol while breastfeeding you can pump and dump. Right?

You may have heard that you can drink like crazy and pump and
dump to keep your breast milk clean? From what I’ve read, that doesn’t work. Supposedly, alcohol is metabolized the same way
while breastfeeding as it normally is. That makes sense to me. For me, one beer with lots of food, well timed (during a feeding or immediately afterward) is what I’m comfortable with. It still feels a little funny breastfeeding and washing it down with a fat tire but it takes some time for the alcohol to get into the bloodstream. And the amount that gets into your breastmilk is minimal with one drink. Surprisingly a midwife told me the other night that drinking beer while breastfeeding helps your milk supply. Which I’ve also read online. Funny thing is people tend to believe what we want to believe. And there’s plenty of stuff on the internet that supports drinking and not drinking during these special times. Personally, I’d rather error on the side of caution because it’s such a short amount of time in the grand scheme of things.

Before I became pregnant I imagined that giving up the caffeine and beer while pregnant would be a bummer. Boy was I surprised when the first trimester nausea set in and Mac n cheese with a side order of pizza was all I wanted. A diet coke here and there to wash those carbs down was a real treat. I’ve always been a big H2O fan so got really good at chugging the water. I’m not a heavy drinker but was a “one a day” kinda girl before getting pregnant. One coffee in the morning to get the party started and one tasty beer at night while making dinner to celebrate the evening. In the end, I had a little caffeine here and there and maybe a total of 2 glasses of wine during my entire pregnancy.

By the second trimester I was used to not drinking so it wasn’t a big deal. As a matter of fact I think limiting my caffeine and not drinking alcohol for 40 weeks was good for me. If I wanted something special when out to dinner I ordered a Shirley Temple.

Variety is the spice of life.

All in all, being pregnant allowed me to embrace another level of
awareness. Just because it’s 5pm and I’m out and about with friends doesn’t mean I necessarily want a drink every time. Sometimes, I noticed that having a beer was more than a habit than anything else. Being pregnant encouraged me to think outside the box in more ways than one. I relished the opportunity to redefine my idea of happy hour in the beer capital (Portland, OR) of the US by enjoying those beat up looking maraschino cherries again as an adult.

Cheers to you and whatever you decide to drink!

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