Baby Sleep Schedule-Is It For Me Or Them?

November 1st, 2013 Brandy Twins Are A Blessing 7 Comments

Anyone who knows me well, knows that I honor a very tight sleep schedule for the twins. I did the same thing with Kai and am so happy that I did. Is the baby sleep schedule for the babies? Absolutely! Is the baby sleep schedule for me? Definitely!

However, there are many days where I wish I could pack up and go, go, go with these babies. But their awake time is only 2-2.5 hours. And I mean 2 hours total time, which includes feeding solids, drinking milk, changing clothes, crawling around and in their beds at that 2 hour mark. Right now, it makes a trip to the zoo or omsi impossible:( Sure, I go on 2-3 walks a day with the babies. It’s a quick spin around the block with the intention of feeding the babies in the stroller and ergo. They drink bottles really well outside in the stroller so we hit the pavement as often as possible these days.

Taking a stroll around the block with my “bebes”

The best part for me about the sleep schedule is very little or no crying before a nap or bedtime. That is my big reward! Lately, we’re sleeping 3-4 hours during the day split into two naps and 7pm-7am at night. That’s my second big reward! Sometimes, I feel like a prisoner in my own house after staying home 9-10 hours straight. I can’t help it, I love to put these babies first. I’ve had friends tell me to “let go of the sleep schedule and do what I want and the babies will be fine.” “They’ll sleep when they’re tired and to live my life and do what I want and take the babies with me. For one, I have a hard time doing anything that’s just “good enough” for my babies but that’s another post. I want to give them the very best care and from my research believe that regular sleep allows them to eat more and develop at a healthy rate. Not to mention their dispositions of super happy babies! Maybe they would still be super happy if I bopped all around in the morning running errands but I’d feel too guilty. Sometimes, I wish I could cruise around doing fun stuff and skip the naps without all the guilt but that’s not the case. Most days I’m able to get my thrill from our baby walks. Of course, every baby and situation is different. Just saying the grass is always greener on the other side.

I am able to plan my life around their sleep schedule so I do. Would I be happier if I gave myself more “freedom” during the day with the babies and got out of the house more? Maybe initially it would feel good but I can’t bring myself to slog them around town and miss their naps if I don’t have to.

Pepper, Kai and Blaize chillin at home

About once or twice a month I test this theory and miss one of their two naps and wow is it hard?! It’s so challenging to feed the twins already but almost impossible when they’re overtired and hungry. Throw an active 3 1/2 year old boy in the mix and call it a rough day… Basically, no scheduled naps=no sleep at night, no workouts at home, no showers, and no time to get stuff done around the house.

Post run with Blaize and Pepper

So, I’m going to stick to my super strict sleep schedule and complain about being a house cat for awhile longer.


  1. stephanie sullivan
    Posted November 1, 2013 at 10:31 am

    I looooooove that your writing your blog again. And everyone has their own perfect style of parenting-you are awesome. love you

  2. Posted November 1, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    Brandi… we haven’t met yet, but I had a tribe of littles as well… four under four at one point… and I second your sleep methodology. It DOES make for happy, healthy, secure, predictable babies and when you’ve got several, that’s so, so important for Mama too. You’re doing a great job, that’s obvious in every picture!!

  3. Posted November 1, 2013 at 11:52 pm

    And… I ended your name with an “i” instead of a “”y”… not cool. My apologies. :(

  4. Amber
    Posted November 2, 2013 at 12:39 am

    Brandy, what a beautiful family!! I am RIGHT THERE with you 110% on the sleep thing. We’re pretty regimented too and it’s been a wonderful thing for us. Hope you guys are well! XOXO

  5. casey
    Posted November 9, 2013 at 6:46 pm

    Hi BRandy! I was the most OCD nap schedule mom I knew ! IT totally helped jimmy develop good sleep habits and the predictable breaks for me were much appreciated. HE still takes a 2 hour siesta, does Kai? You are looking great and so glad you are doing well with the new additions!

  6. Posted November 12, 2013 at 11:15 am

    Hi Casey! So glad to hear that I’m not alone with the nap scheduling! Kai still takes an afternoon nap AND I usually have to wake him up. He’s 3.5 so it’s not everyday but most days and it’s a glorious thing. Thanks for reading and sharing. I still can’t believe you pumped for a year! You are an amazing mama!!

  7. Posted November 12, 2013 at 11:16 am

    Thanks Amber! Love feeling like I’m not the only one who plans my life/day around naps:) hugs to you and your pod!