Baby Sleep Schedule-Is It For Me Or Them?

Anyone who knows me well, knows that I honor a very tight sleep schedule for the twins. I did the same thing with Kai and am so happy that I did. Is the baby sleep schedule for the babies? Absolutely! Is the baby sleep schedule for me? Definitely!

However, there are many days where I wish I could pack up and go, go, go with these babies. But their awake time is only 2-2.5 hours. And I mean 2 hours total time, which includes feeding solids, drinking milk, changing clothes, crawling around and in their beds at that 2 hour mark. Right now, it makes a trip to the zoo or omsi impossible:( Sure, I go on 2-3 walks a day with the babies. It’s a quick spin around the block with the intention of feeding the babies in the stroller and ergo. They drink bottles really well outside in the stroller so we hit the pavement as often as possible these days.

Taking a stroll around the block with my “bebes”

The best part for me about the sleep schedule is very little or no crying before a nap or bedtime. That is my big reward! Lately, we’re sleeping 3-4 hours during the day split into two naps and 7pm-7am at night. That’s my second big reward! Sometimes, I feel like a prisoner in my own house after staying home 9-10 hours straight. I can’t help it, I love to put these babies first. I’ve had friends tell me to “let go of the sleep schedule and do what I want and the babies will be fine.” “They’ll sleep when they’re tired and to live my life and do what I want and take the babies with me. For one, I have a hard time doing anything that’s just “good enough” for my babies but that’s another post. I want to give them the very best care and from my research believe that regular sleep allows them to eat more and develop at a healthy rate. Not to mention their dispositions of super happy babies! Maybe they would still be super happy if I bopped all around in the morning running errands but I’d feel too guilty. Sometimes, I wish I could cruise around doing fun stuff and skip the naps without all the guilt but that’s not the case. Most days I’m able to get my thrill from our baby walks. Of course, every baby and situation is different. Just saying the grass is always greener on the other side.

I am able to plan my life around their sleep schedule so I do. Would I be happier if I gave myself more “freedom” during the day with the babies and got out of the house more? Maybe initially it would feel good but I can’t bring myself to slog them around town and miss their naps if I don’t have to.

Pepper, Kai and Blaize chillin at home

About once or twice a month I test this theory and miss one of their two naps and wow is it hard?! It’s so challenging to feed the twins already but almost impossible when they’re overtired and hungry. Throw an active 3 1/2 year old boy in the mix and call it a rough day… Basically, no scheduled naps=no sleep at night, no workouts at home, no showers, and no time to get stuff done around the house.

Post run with Blaize and Pepper

So, I’m going to stick to my super strict sleep schedule and complain about being a house cat for awhile longer.

Grateful For My Inpatient Stay With My MoMo Twins

One year ago this Saturday, I checked myself into the hospital for aggressive fetal monitoring for my high risk Momo pregnancy. I was scared, but wanted to do whatever I could to potentially help our unborn identical twin girls. I can barely think about the details of that day and the following 31 days of my inpatient stay…For me, sitting in a hospital bed and plugging into the wall to listen for 2 fetal heartbeats all day and night was quite traumatic. I remember details so clearly of my impatient stay that I can still feel the dry hospital air when I think about it. People told me to relax! Enjoy laying around with food and housekeeping service. I tried and think I enjoyed that time as much as I could. Honestly, what a mind f**k to sit outside of the operating room on the labor and delivery floor with high risk twins that most Dr’s hadn’t seen recently or ever with the intention of delivering premature babies at a moment’s notice around the clock. As challenging as my inpatient stay was, I’d do it again in a heartbeat.

Blaize and Pepper sharing a bath at 7 months old adjusted age. (9 months old actual age)

My Momo pregnancy was one difficult decision after another. From the first decision to NOT terminate my pregnancy at 9 weeks when I was bleeding bright red blood for 2 months. To NOT participate in selective termination when Blaize (Baby B) was measuring much smaller at 19 weeks and we flew to San Francisco to interview for fetal surgery. (Luckily, we weren’t good candidates for fetal surgery because of the close proxcimity of cord insertions) To NOT delivering at 25 weeks when Baby B was experiencing significant heart decels and I checked into the hospital for the day of fetal monitoring. The Dr’s seemed panicked and wanted to start my magnesium that day to protect against possible brain bleeds because they thought delivery was potentially hours away. To NOT staying in the hospital that day at 25 weeks because I didn’t want to deliver my babies that weekend. Even though the Dr’s told me there is a significant chance there won’t be heartbeats on Monday. To INSISTING on aggressive fetal monitoring against some specialists recommendations. (Specialists are split down the middle whether a few hours OR 24 hours a day of monitoring is best) To INSISTING on a 32 Week Delivery date. (Also split down the middle between 32-34 weeks for delivery for MoMo twins)

I reached out to countless twin moms and joined an amazing group on facebook who mentally supported all my legitimate fears. I had lots of visitors and am so grateful for the people who helped me pass the time. Thank goodness for facebook and netflix!

I dreamed that one day my twins would be healthy and able to go on runs with me. Today, we have been on lots of runs and I am forever grateful for my babydolls, Blaize and Pepper.

My only advice for other MoMo moms is to do your own research and make your own decisons because there will be a lot of decisions to make from day one.

Did my 32 day impatient stay with aggressive fetal monitoring contribute to healthy babies? Maybe. Did my 32 week delivery date ensure that two babies survived? Maybe. I’ll never know for sure but after countless hours of research I feel good about my decisions.

Today, I’m basking in gratitude for my beautiful, healthy babies.

Best in health my friends

How To Travel Well With Babies

Recently, we took the circus to Maui. It was our first real vacation as a family of five. Traveling with twin infants and a 3 year old is pretty wild but I came up with a list of five must haves to make it easier on mama.

1. Ipad

The Ipad was only meant for Kai but Blaize and Pepper enjoyed a few Dora songs as well.
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Introducing Our Identical Twin Girls; Blaize and Pepper

My babydolls are 10 weeks old today! Born at 32 weeks after a rocky MoMo pregnancy, I’m happy to say that they are both 7+ pounds.

Pepper and Blaize

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Being Married To An Entrepreneur Is A Constant Adventure

Five years ago when I signed up for I was hoping to get some good leads. I never thought I would meet my husband online… I always thought that I could meet a nice guy online who I didn’t date but became buddies with. It was one of his friends whom I thought I could marry. Little did I know that I would meet my husband and have 3 kids within five years of marrying him.

Feeling hot and happy in Kauai in 2008

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